Saturday, November 26, 2011


Guest blog!

When we suffer a tragic moment in our life it is difficult to believe anything positive is going to come from it. While we are in the middle of our crisis all we want is the solution that will take our pain away.

Many people, especially well meaning friends and family say all the right things, “sleep on it” “it will be better in the morning” “there is a reason this is happening, we just don’t know what that reason is yet” or “give it time.” The problem is, if I could sleep perhaps I would find out this was true. Waiting for the reason to show up is almost more than we can stand. When it is happening to us, we want to know the reason… now!

I am a believer in the Universal Laws especially the Law of Attraction. There is no doubt “we attract what we think about.” I have enough history to prove the Universe will bring exactly what we think about. If we say it out loud, giving verbal energy to it, watch out, the Universe will definitely bring it to us. Have you ever said, “Oh my, I just thought that or said that?” These are the reasons why I make sure the words coming out of my mouth, when I am searching for resolution to a crisis, are spoken in the most positive way even when I am angry or hurt. Although I admit that is not always easy.

At one point, the crisis I was facing forced me to sell my home and embark upon a journey that has taken me away from my children and friends for 17 months. I travelled over 60,000 km seeking confirmation that the Universe was working in my favour when all I could think about was how sad I was feeling and the Universe was evil.

Now I can see how it worked in my favour. Enough time has passed so that I can think clearly about my own crisis and I can see the reasons the Universe kept putting obstacle after obstacle in front of me, it kept me safe.

Feelings of fear consumed me to the point where physical pain made it almost impossible to eat, sleep or have a conversation with anyone. The self doubts that kicked my self esteem to the floor kept me enclosed, behind the closed door of my home, making my world so dark and heavy that it seemed I would never feel normal again.

Then I started praying to “What ever gods may be” and believing I could change the way I think and feel. This forced me to believe the positive words coming out of my mouth and my world started to look brighter. I took control of the only thing I could… myself. I have managed to pick my self esteem up and believe in my dreams again. I was determined not to live in the darkness anymore. I managed to do this without reaching for alcohol or the prescription my doctor handed me when I walked out of her office. She told me I was depressed, but I refused to believe that. I understood life threw me too many curve balls and I was unable to catch them all – at first.

For more information about Unfinished by Suzanne Gravelle, visit and you can follow her journey on her blog –

About Unfinished
This is a true story of a woman who experienced such a profound awakening that she could no longer live the same way, the same life she was just one week before. She could no longer ignore the woman who was screaming to be set free from the ties that bind her to a life she no longer desired or recognized. The transformation to become the woman she really wanted to be has propelled her upon the most remarkable self-discovery journey of her life. She sold her home, gave up her career, kissed her children, grandchildren and friend’s good bye, got into her vehicle and just drove away…ALONE. Where was she going? 30,000km later she finds herself in the most unlikely place to try to piece her life together, trying to make sense of the constant feeling of being UNFINISHED. (To order your copy –

About Suzanne Gravelle
Suzanne Gravelle is 49 Years old and has 3 children, 2 grandchildren who live in Nova Scotia.  At the time this book goes to print she is single and homeless by choice, still travelling, seeking that place of comfort she will eventually call home.
She spent most of her life living in Nova Scotia but her formidable years aged 10-25, were spent living on Vancouver Island, British Columbia. She resigned as a Real Estate Agent in Nova Scotia, to embark upon this most incredible journey, driving, exploring Canada and writing this book. To read Suzanne’s extended bio, visit


Nikki said...

Phil -- Thank you for sharing information from Suzanne and her journey :)

Sooz said...

Hello Phil, Thank you so much for sharing my story on your blog site!
My journey, like so many people I have met lately,is scary and exciting so it really must be worth doing. I have enjoyed reading the articles you have posted and will continue to follow you. Thank you again Phil,